Happiness. What is that, exactly? Is it winning a blue ribbon? Is it winning the lottery? Is it falling in love? Or does it take some kind of magic formula to achieve?
Would you believe me if I told you that happiness is a habit? So is unhappiness. Of course, there are life events that can change your feeling state, but the overall quality of your life is formed much more by your habitual thinking patterns than by exterior life events. It’s those habits of thinking that drive your emotions and your actions. Those habitual thought patterns determine how you respond to the challenges.
When a challenge shows up in your life, do you complain about it? Or do you take a positive action to handle it? Do you have a plan? Do you have a support system in place? Do you trust that you’re capable of dealing with problems, or are you usually overwhelmed?
You can see how riding horses is a terrific metaphor for how you handle life, can’t you? You can stay stuck in a problem, quit altogether, or make a plan to move forward. It’s totally up to you.
If you’re feeling unhappy with your riding, or anything else in your life, ask yourself these questions: Do I need more information? Do I need some help from someone else? Am I unhappy because I’m in the habit of being unhappy? Once you have those answers, you can decide if you want to spend the effort to move forward and create a happier, more fulfilling life. It truly is up to you.