I ran into an old friend at a horse show last week. He was showing at fourth level and was struggling with consistent, clean flying lead changes. He was embarrassed about it but asked for advice anyway. I was flattered that he’d ask me for help.
I explained that timing was everything in lead changes and in life. The key was making sure he listened to his rider’s commands and changing his hind legs at the moment he felt the cue. If he or his rider waited too long, or started too soon, he’d miss his chance to do the change correctly. He thought about it and realized he was hesitant to change because his rider’s command was a bit wishy-washy and unclear. That moment of hesitation made it impossible for him to do a clean change.
How often do we hesitate to do things we want to do? Sometimes we’re not sure what action to take. Occasionally we wait for someone else to tell us what to do. Sometimes we’re afraid of failing. Often it’s the scary unknown consequences of our actions that makes us pause.
There is power in boldness. Charging ahead in spite of being unsure is one way to create a very satisfying life. Of course, there’s always the chance you might make a mistake or fail, but failure is not always a bad thing. Learn from the failure and move on. The only time you’ve truly failed, is if you don’t even try.
What would you do today if you knew you couldn’t fail? What would happen if you did fail? Is it worth the risk?