You can help your stiff horse bend better by using what I call “benign antagonism”. Benign antagonism is simply a training philosophy that allows you to custom design your program for every horse.

It simply means that you kindly and quietly do the opposite of whatever your horse chooses to do on his own. For example, if your horse likes to carry his head too high, then you ride him “deep”. If he likes to put his head on the ground, then you ride him ”up”. If your horse likes to go too fast, then you work him in a slow tempo.

As far as lateral bending goes, few horses are ambidextrous—meaning they can bend as easily to the right as to the left. So, using benign antagonism, you’ll make your horse’s soft side more “stiff” and his stiff side more “soft” and bendable.


Riders tend to think that the stiff side is the “bad” side because it feels harder for them to bend their horses when that side is on the inside. But you need to think outside the box. The stiff side is not the problem. Your horse feels stiff to the right because the muscles on the left side of his body are shortened and contracted. These shortened muscles limit how much he can stretch his left side and bend around your right leg.

The benign antagonism solution to this problem is to stretch those shortened muscles on the left side by riding your horse with too much bend when you track to the right. In schooling, you’ll live in “right bend” until you feel the muscles on his left side elongate. (You’ll know those muscles are stretching because it’ll feel easier to bend your horse to the right.)

So, let’s track to the right—the stiff (hard, strong) side. Here’s an exercise to gently stretch and elongate the muscles on the left side (the hollow side) of your horse’s body and to make sure you keep your bending aids on.

  • If your horse is really stiff, do the exercise in the walk.
  • Go on a large circle to the right.
  • Pick a point somewhere along the arc of the circle, and turn onto a 6-meter circle.
  • While on the small circle, think about your bending aids. (Put your weight on your right seat bone, keep your right leg on girth, place your left leg behind girth, flex your horse to the right by turning the key in the lock with your right wrist, and support with your left hand.)
  • Ride the 6-meter circle a couple of times until your horse’s body conforms to its arc.
  • Once he’s bending, keep applying the 6-meter bending aids, but blend back onto the 20-meter circle,
  • If it gets difficult for your horse to stay bent to the right, blend back onto a 6-meter circle. The idea is to “think” about riding the 20-meter circle with a 6-meter bend even though in reality you won’t be able to do that.
  • Once you can do this on a circle, try riding straight down the long side with your horse bent as if he’s on the arc of a 6-meter circle. (The feeling is a bit like doing shoulder-in in front and haunches-in behind at the same time.) When you go down the long side, bend your horse to the right from nose to tail as if he’s on the arc of a circle at the point where the circle would touch the long side. Be sure you bend him behind your leg as well as in front of the saddle.


The flip side of this “stiff to the right” issue is that your horse will be hollow or soft to the left. You might think his soft side is his “good” side because he feels easier to bend, but the hollow side of your horse needs help as well.

On the hollow side, your horse doesn’t have true bend–equal from poll to tail. He usually overbends the neck to the inside and places his inside hind leg to the inside of his line of travel.

By doing so, he can avoid bending the joints of his inside hind (engagement), and he also doesn’t carry as much weight on it. As a result, that leg gets weaker, and your horse develops unevenly.

My benign antagonism solution for this problem is to ride without any bend at all when the hollow side is on the inside. Keep your horse as straight as he is on the long side even when you go through corners and circles. Think that his body is like a bus that can’t bend on turns.

  • Let’s say your horse is hollow (soft, weak) on his left side. When circling to the left, ride without any bend at all. Keep his body as straight as a bus.
  • To get a perception of straightness, halt somewhere on the long side. Make your horse’s body parallel to the long side all the way from poll to tail.
  • Also, ride him either with no flexion (His chin is lined up with center of his chest.) or in counter-flexion (-1). In counter-flexion, his face will be 1 inch to the right of “neutral “ (no flexion).
  • Ride through corners and circles with no bend through his body and in counter-flexion at his poll. If you ride in this position, your horse’s left hind leg will step underneath his body.
  • This will make that leg stronger over time. (Note: These physical therapy exercises are only for schooling– not for competition.)

If you use this philosophy of benign antagonism, you’ll find that you rarely get stuck solving training issues. Invite your horse to do the opposite of what he chooses until it becomes easy for him. Once that happens, settle back into a happy medium.