There was a very upset lady at the barn today. I heard her fighting back tears as she was telling a friend that she was horrified at how close her son was to getting in an accident. He had come home from college for a visit. On his way back to school, he was nearly hit by a car going the wrong way on the highway. Someone else a mile down the road was hit head-on by the wayward vehicle, and both drivers were killed. This woman was very distressed at the thought that it could have easily been her son in that horrific accident. It rattled her feelings of security on a level that was very deep.
It’s easy to say that well-being is the norm. It’s easy to say that tens of thousands of people had driven that same highway that day and made it to their destination without incident. Knowing the odds are in your favor doesn’t always comfort the person whose sense of safety has been rattled so deeply…especially when a beloved family member is involved.
So, how do you move on from a close call? How do you find your inner balance again once it’s been shaken?
While I won’t advocate any particular spiritual belief, there is an element of faith in the unseen that is very helpful in this situation. If your individual beliefs will support the idea that there is an order to the Universe that we can’t possibly know or understand, then you have a foundational platform from where to base your faith. You can trust that there is a plan, a bigger picture, and accept that powers greater than yourself control that plan. All is as it should be. If you don’t have this sort of belief, then perhaps a logical examination of the sheer numbers that the gamble of life holds in your positive favor will be enough. Either way, worrying won’t help you or your loved ones stay safe. Worry holds no power except to keep you unbalanced.
I used to worry when I was put in a horse trailer. I still don’t like it. But each time I walk into that dark box, I work at releasing my need to know where we’re going or if I’m going to get there safely. There’s nothing I can do about it. So I put my faith in Jane and in the Universe that all will be well. I let it go. And if something untoward happens, I’ll deal with it when the time comes. Worrying won’t make a difference. So why borrow trouble from a future that may never come to pass? Real difficulties can be overcome. It’s only the imaginary ones that are insurmountable.
Is your horse afraid of the horse trailer? It’s very claustrophobic for us. If you don’t trailer often enough to build your horse’s confidence, you might want to simply put him in the trailer now and then and not go anywhere. Doing that will remind him that he won’t be hurt. Be sure to attach the trailer to the truck first so it doesn’t accidentally move or tip.
It worked for me.